How do you get a relationship that is healthy and right for you? Most of you have probably watched the video The Secret, but it is really not only about simply attracting what you want. It is about consciousness, free will, and choices in this life.
Simply put, the more you work on bettering your relationship with yourself and raising your consciousness level, the more likely you are to attract someone who is healthier, and healthier for you. Whatever relational patterns you have that stem from your belief system and unresolved family of origin dynamics, you are going to attract someone who mirrors what is unresolved in you.
Understanding this concept and applying it to your life really helps you make sense of relationships and doing the inner work to move forward positively. It's your choice.
When you understand who you really are behind all of your dysfunctional relational dynamics, your fears and your addictions, you begin to understand what you really want and need in your life. Addictions can manifest in many forms, eating, shopping, exercise, relationships etc.
When you understand this, you can put yourself in situations with people who closely align with your real interests and level of consciousness. It might sound like common sense, but it is more. It is about doing the inner work to get you to that place. Before you can have a healthy relationship, you have to first remove old stuck energy and beliefs that no longer serve you, from situations where people have treated you poorly or led you to feel unworthy of self-love, happiness, or respect.
Unfortunately, you cannot think, rationalize, or talk these blocks away. These issues can be healed through the therapeutic process. Working on these issues frees you to attract a healthy, loving relationship—and know that you deserve it.